Intentional scalp care changed how my hair behaves. It took time to understand what was really happening. Years of observing patterns, adjusting routines, and realizing that stress and hormonal shifts were shaping more than I expected. Perimenopause made the connection undeniable.
Once I stopped chasing surface solutions and started approaching scalp care through nervous system regulation, everything shifted. My scalp felt different and my hair responded differently. I’m going to share the practices that changed how I approach hair during this transition.
We all know the feeling of a regulated nervous system, breath deepens, muscles soften, the mind gets quieter, scalp tension eases, sleep improves, and hormones behave better. It’s the foundation for resilient hair routines and intentional scalp care. On the other hand, chronic stress disrupts.
One of the most common stress patterns in hair is telogen effluvium, where a trigger pushes far more hairs into the resting phase than normal. In a typical scalp, about 15% of hairs are in the shedding phase; in telogen effluvium it can rise to ~30% or more.
And if any more motivation is needed: chronic stress biology reaches the follicle itself. Harvard researchers identified a pathway where elevated stress hormones negatively affect hair follicle stem cells, showing stress isn’t just “in the head”—it becomes a follicle-level signal.
Stress doesn’t only change hair behavior—it changes the body. Higher cortisol is associated with anxiety symptoms during perimenopause, and the menopausal transition can be a period where stress sensitivity increases.
If you only change one thing: lower stress.
Learn 10 habits
These are not quick fixes. They are habits I rely on consistently.
1. Become Someone Who Doesn’t Stress
Make regulation your #1 priority. Nothing influences the scalp more than the nervous system.
Plan daily moments of intentional calm. Put them in your calendar.
Explain your priorities to the people around you. Stress management is not indulgent. It’s foundational.
Ignore the culture that normalizes chronic stress. Elevated cortisol shifts the hair cycle. Hair reflects internal patterns.
2. Create a 20–30 Minute Sensory Wind-Down Ritual
Set a specific time each day to slow down. Engage in repetitive, calming input:
• slow scalp massage
• warm water or steam exposure
• quiet environments
• reduced digital stimulation
Scalp massage has been shown to influence hair thickness and gene expression when practiced consistently. Small rituals done daily outperform occasional long sessions.
3. Reduce Scalp Tension
Stress accumulates physically. Release tension in:
• jaw
• neck
• shoulders
• scalp
Even a few minutes of intentional movement improves circulation. Pressure is not the goal. Consistency is.
4. Support Circulation
Hair depends on delivery. Encourage blood flow through:
• regular physical movement
• daily scalp stimulation
• temperature contrast exposure
Circulation supports adaptation during hormonal shifts.
5. Simplify Scalp Detox
Avoid overcomplicating routines. Focus on:
• detoxing the scalp
• avoiding over-stripping
• supporting balance
Aggressive routines increase irritation. Balance preserves function.
6. Protect Sleep
Sleep regulates cortisol, inflammation, and hormonal signaling. Perimenopause often disrupts sleep patterns. Protect it intentionally.
Set a consistent sleep window.
Dim lights at night.
Reduce stimulation before bed. Hair recovery happens during rest.
7. Reduce Daily Overstimulation
Constant input keeps the nervous system elevated. Limit:
• excessive scrolling
• constant notifications
• multitasking
The body shifts faster in quiet environments. Regulation requires space.
8. Support Hormonal Adaptation
Perimenopause is a hormonal transition, not a malfunction. Estrogen fluctuations influence the hair cycle. Support adaptation through:
• stress reduction
• circulation
• recovery
• consistent routines
Forcing change rarely works. Supporting the system does.
9. Avoid Reactive Decisions
Hair operates on delayed timelines. Do not change products weekly.
Do not overcorrect after one bad day.
Track patterns before making adjustments. Hair reflects months of internal conditions.
10. Gather Data
Pay attention & track:
• shedding patterns
• stress levels
• sleep quality
• scalp sensitivity
Observation informs better decisions.
Continuously refine your approach.
You don’t need to copy what I do. But consistency matters.
Managing stress is a process. Start by regulating the nervous system and approaching scalp care with intention. Consistency matters.
You’ve got this.
Stay calm,
Mad
Disclaimer: this blog is provided for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute providing medical advice or professional services. The information provided should not be used for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease, and those seeking personal medical advice should consult with a licensed physician.